I’ve been trying to remain calm today, however the conversation I had this morning at the local Dollar General store still bothers me. The lady at check out asked me if I wanted to donate my change to Autism. I told her I regularly donated and that my middle grandson has Asperger’s (of course that’s considered part of the Autism Spectrum – ASD now). Her response was “at least he’s high functioning”. WTH, she just assumes to know how he is and what he can do. How obtuse, if you’re going to ask for donations at least get familiar with what you asking for. Just because he is verbal and/or high functioning (genius level, etc) doesn’t mean that there’s not issues there.
Ever had one of those moments when you just zone out??? Well, try telling your child/grandchild to do something as simple as pick up the trash or put up your clothes or put your dirty cloths in the basket and have them look at you like your were from outer space and you asked them to fly. Actually, asking him to fly would make more sense at this point to him than a normal request.
Try getting them to calm down when they’ve completely lost it because of something they can’t do and they deem it’s important that they be able to do it. After you’ve dealt with a major meltdown (not a temper tantrum) then come to me and tell me “well at least he’s verbal”. Lady you don’t have a frigging clue so until you do it’s just better than you shut up and become educated.
When will people ever realize that just because our children/grandchildren are verbal – that doesn’t mean that many of the same issues aren’t still there.
Now I will step back off my soapbox. Those of you out there that deal with these issues daily will completely understand this post, the rest of you – do a little research and actually listen when someone tries to explain to you or you see it happening.
And, for those of you that have children that want to go to camp or that go to camp – does your child have to have his own “camp volunteer”? Even though he’s capable of bathing, eating and dressing himself on his own just because this is a disability 4H camp is requiring him to have an adult volunteer.
While I am extremely thankful that he can speak and is high functioning that doesn’t take the pain away from what he has to deal with and the frustration of not being able to “fix” it where he doesn’t have to deal with a lot of crap. That doesn’t take away the daily stress and havoc that it causes in his life and the issues that are raised as to what he can and can’t do.
Don’t dare to suggest punishment until you know what you are talking about!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The tree was decorated with the help of the three year old grandson. He was never happy with it, kept saying it needed more lights and things. So of course we kept adding and adding, but he was happy.
He said he wanted a winter wonderland with my Christmas houses, but of course he had to add a train. His big brother put his train up for him. I thought he was going to add some of his Thomas the Train trains to it but he didn’t.
On Friday after we got the decorations done it all caught up with me and I was sick. Blood pressure up very high for the first time in about seven years and on Saturday morning – it was bad- I spent 1/2 day in the local Emergency Room. Guess I have to deal with this crap again, and with classes starting back in a couple of weeks it couldn’t have happened at a worse time.
Even with the trials of Autism/Asperger’s being around, I am so thankful for my grandchildren to be as healthy as they are. I can always look around and see others that are not doing as well. Sometimes when the meltdowns hit we neglect to see the positives. I think that we sometimes let ourselves get overloaded with what is going on in our lives and forget that we have it so much better than a lot of others.
Merry Christmas to all!!
Posted in Aspergers, Autism, children, Christmas, Family, Farm, fun, trains
Tagged anxiety, Aspergers, autism, children, Christmas, dreams, Family, farm, fun stuff, grandchildren, Holidays
Today, let’s bump up the contrast for a bold take on triumph.
This is from a few years ago when my son wrecked his PT Cruiser and it caught fire.
Before changes in contrast:
After changes in contrast:
Happy Thanksgiving to all from Tennessee, where it’s a “balmy” 35 degrees and cloudy. Sun tried to peak out a few times but finally gave up. I hope everyone, everywhere has been able to enjoy family and friends.
Posted in ancestory, Fall, Family, Farm, fun, grandchildren, NaBloPoMo
Tagged ancestors, blogging, children, fall, Family, Food, NaBloPoMo
Capture a fleeting moment and experiment with blur and movement.
That moment when you know it’s gone from being silly to completely over the top.
Posted in children, Family, fun, grandchildren, NaBloPoMo, Photo101, Photography101
Tagged children, Family, grandchildren, NaBloPoMo, photo101, photography
Colors can stir emotions within us, tell stories, and transform our images. Today, use one color to add life or drama to your shot.
This shot is of the ticket booth at the old drive in on Hwy 50 in Lewisburg, TN. It’s closed for winter and looks so desolate and abandoned. Took a shot of the sign at the entrance also but the color on this one really stands out.
The following photos are of the sign and the concession stand area. They all have the pops of red.
Posted in Fall, Farm, NaBloPoMo, Photo101, Photography101, RandomRamblings.., Storms, TN, Water
Tagged children, Family, farm, grandkids, life, photo101, photography, Random Ramblings
Today, capture an image of warmth, ideally using the sun as your source.
Not a lot of sun around the last couple of days until late in the day and definitely not any warmth from it. This is one from the last good warm day we had when Con could get out and play and have fun in the sun.
Posted in children, Fall, Family, fun, grandchildren, Photo101, sun, warm
Tagged children, farm, fun stuff, grandkids, memories, photo101, sun